Why Marketing is Like Sex - and Vice Versa
Sex. And marketing. Two areas in which everyone pretty much believes they are expert.
Think about it. Both areas have fairly low barriers to entry. Both areas have a plethora of articles and books available to teach us the "secrets" of success. You could walk up to your uncle right now, and he could talk for hours on either subject.
When is the last time you ever heard someone say, "I really don't know that much about marketing/sex"? Never. People who know, know. Those who don't, think they know
But come to think of it, sex and marketing have similar rules and lessons of interaction. Both can teach us about the other.
What can sex teach us about marketing - and what can marketing teach us about sex?
Rather than running from the question, let's run WITH it! Following are 36 observations or recommendations that could apply equally well to both subjects.
1. The keys to synergy and a long term relationship are trust, passion and respect:
2. Passion is everything - seek ways to live it and create it. Passion begets passion - it’s better if both parties are passionate about each other. And you know passion when you see it. Or feel it.
3. Trust is a necessary foundation for any relationship. Without it, the relationship will erode. Trust takes time to create, and mere seconds to destroy.
4. Respect your market before, during and after the transaction.
5. Communication is vital. Two way.
6. Ask your market what they like - then try to give that to them better than they have ever gotten it before.
7. After the transaction, don’t assume you were awesome. Ask your market how much they liked it and what could have been better. Seek continuous improvement. Oh yeah, you better pay attention to body language; it speaks WAY louder than words.
8. Investigate success as well as failure. If you develop a strategy that appears to have worked really well, find out why. Ask the right questions.
9. The same thing, day after day, night after night, is boring. People will start looking elsewhere for excitement.
10. Serial and varied interactions may seem exciting, but the best long-term results are developed by a deep understanding of your market and what makes them tick. It’s the development of repeat business, and profound mutual loyalty and partnership.
11. Never lose sight of the fact that if the relationship is not mutually beneficial, it will be short term.
12. You don’t position your product - your market positions your product.
13. The right positioning strategy can only be developed once you have a thorough understanding of your market and what it needs/wants, and how you might best address those.
14. You better keep an eye on the competition: what your market is looking at and finding attractive.
15. First impressions are vital. It had better be a good one. And real.
16. If you come across as being in it for you, your market won’t be back.
17. Once the sale is closed, the marketing starts all over again. Don’t fall asleep.
18. There had better be consistency in the brand message and the users’ experience.
19. Perception is reality - you better be listening to what people think.
20. Being louder will not make up for a poor strategy.
21. Making it fun and entertaining will always win more points and create more interest than foolish consistency.
22. It’s a courtship that begins, but never ends.
23. You can’t spin your way out of trouble you behave your way into.
24. Knowing your market is vital. And not all markets are the same. Each has a different set of needs and wants, and will respond differently to marketing messages.
25. Complacency will get you ditched for someone more interesting and/or responsive.
26. Long term commitment is preferred to a series of short term, temporary interactions.
27. There will be misfires - ask about it, learn from it and move on. But don’t be afraid to try something new.
28. The best results will be achieved by listening first - and by listening more than talking.
29. Be real. Don’t try to be something you are not. You’ll have to give up some of your market, but the ones you attract will be there because they want YOU.
30. There will always be people who love reading about it more than they love doing it.
31. Reading every book on the subject will not make one an expert. You must practice and experiment. And fail.
32. Failure, and learning from failure is crucial to long term success.
33. If you haven’t ever failed then you haven’t tried enough new things.
34. Two people engaged in the same transaction can have entirely different experiences. Communication afterward is key.
35. Enthusiasm can attract business sometimes when there is a glaring lack of experience.
36. Winning the head is less important than winning the heart.
OK - I know there are also many ways in which marketing and sex do NOT have similarities - such as say having a goal of winning as many customers as possible. But that's the subject of another blog!
So what other lessons can be applied to both subject areas? I hope readers will feel inspired to weigh in with their own ideas on the subject. After all, everyone is an expert, right? :-)
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